I’ve been thinking all week about a comment my daughter made: “Peace of mind of priceless.” The fact that my 22year old daughter understood this concept made this momma proud! Making a decision based on peace is a mature thing to do. So just what is peace of mind and why is it important.
Dictionary definitions of “peace of mind” don’t really do it justice. So, here’s my “two cents”: tranquility of mind, inner peace, calm, lack of anxiety or concern, a feeling of stability or security. I think all of these words sum up what it means to have peace of mind.
Why It Matters
While I am definitely not a psychologist, I think most people would agree that what we see on the outside is often a reflection of what’s going on inside. I’ve had friends who’s work, homes and cars were chaos and unfortunately, their personal lives were too. Here’s why….
Inner peace is calming to our mind and creates a space where we can see our path with greater clarity and focus. It’s just simply easier to make decisions, set goals and follow through. When we lack inner peace the chaos serves as a hindrance to achieving the things we desire.
What It Looks Like
Now that we know what it is and why it’s important, what does it look like daily? Peace of mind is seen in someone who exercises control over their thoughts and feelings. In other words, it’s a person who is not led by emotions.
Emotions are important and should be acknowledged and experienced, but they are lousy leaders. A person with peace of mind recognizes feelings but makes decisions to deny negative thoughts and instead, pursue a calm mindset.
How Do I Get It
Here are some things I do to maintain peace of mind:
- Take a time out, walk and/or get outside and let the beauty of nature calm my soul.
- Use guided meditation which is simply learning to take control of your thoughts to calm your mind and breathing.
- List all the things for which I am grateful. I find the quickest way to adjust my attitude is with gratitude.
- Own your “stuff”. Don’t shy away from taking responsibility for mistakes. Afterall, they don’t define you!
- Love yourself enough to take good care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. You are worth the investment!
- Finally, purge and declutter. Too much stuff at home and work can create a feeling of overwhelm. Keep life simple with a good daily routine and fewer choices.
Some of the best advice that I have ever received is “to always follow peace.” At times this has been hard to do, as the desire to be “right”, selfishness and grumbling overtook my peace of mind.
I’ve had enough life experience now to know that being “right” is definitely overrated. You never know what someone else is going through, so compassion is a must for healthy relationships. And, grumbling/complaining changes nothing about a circumstance yet leaves you with a sour disposition.
Peace of mind is definitely priceless and worth the effort to maintain it. In the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Nobody can bring you peace but yourself.”