How To Spot Deception — Dr. Eric Perry

Written by Dr. Eric Perry “He who has eyes to see and ears to hear may convince himself that no mortal can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips; betrayal oozes out of him at every pore.” ~Sigmund Freud In my profession, it is important to know if someone […]

How To Spot Deception — Dr. Eric Perry


One of my favorite things to do is “back porch sitting”. Looking out at nature around me, hearing the songs of the birds, frogs and bugs, and watching the clouds float by are soothing to my soul. Of course the fact that the porch is screened in makes it more pleasant!!

My parents had a lovely front porch and we spent a great deal of time there. It was a place of conversation, connection and a good spot for “thinking”. So, I have always had a fondness for the “power of the porch”.

Sometimes I read, sometimes I meditate, sometimes I pray, sometimes I think deeply and sometimes…..I just exist – in the moment – relaxing and enjoying the beauty before me.

We live in world that is fast paced and often full of noise. I know for myself that it is important to be able to refresh and recharge and the “porch” is perfect for doing just that. I hope that everyone has a “quiet place” to stop and refresh. It is one the best investments you can make in yourself.

“YOU CAN’T BE DISCONNECTED AND HAPPY” – THE SECRET THINGS OF GOD – Unlocking the Treasures Reserved for You by Dr. Henry Cloud

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I offer today a quote from Dr. Cloud’s book called “The Secret Things of God“. “… one of the most important secrets of God: we are not meant to be alone.” This is a quote from the Chapter entitled “There Is No Such Thing as Disconnected and Happy.” Dr. Cloud points out that we were created to live in relationship with others and life doesn’t work unless we do just that. He goes on to say that “We live in a relational universe. To survive, and to prosper, we have to be connected to other.”

As an introvert, this chapter was very challenging for me. I have close relationships with my husband, children and grandchildren; however, I have not done well in developing deep connections outside of family. I have come to see the importance in opening myself up to others who will be reliable, truthful and supportive friends in my life journey. Science proves that our degree of happiness depends on the level with which we let others in.

Being vulnerable and open with trusted friends is a gift. Knowing that you have a support group to have fun with, to be “real” with, and to keep you accountable adds value to your life and lets you know you are not alone.

Do you have deep connections with others? Do you want deep connections with others? I hope that you do and that you find “your people”. It is a recipe for happiness when you find them. Click here if you are interested in purchasing a copy of Dr. Cloud’s book.

Happy Reading!


It finally happened ….. Robby and I were able to travel to our cabin for the first time in two months. The whole COVID19 thing put a halt to visiting our “happy place”! The last time we visited the trees were still bare and you could see all the way over to the next mountain ridge. As you can see in the pic above, the trees are loaded with leaves and the land is lush.

One of the good things that happened is that during the “stay at home” confinement, we had some extensive work done on the outside of our cabin. It has been sealed and restained along with some extra carpentry work around the windows. While I am not including pics, it does look outstanding!!!!

Once we arrived, my soul felt so peaceful and happy. The mountains simply speak to my core and being here was good for my soul. Since it had been a while since our last visit, we did have some cleaning and chores to take care of, which we did with a smile.

Although many things are still not open or back to “normal”, we were able to visit a “preview opening” of a second location of one of our favorite microbreweries. Here we are enjoying “Bear Waters Brewing – Maggie Valley”. The new place is awesome and we love the location on Jonathon’s Creek, not to mention it is very close to our cabin. It should be no surprise that this will be a regular stop for us! This was also the first time that I had eaten (outside) at an establishment in months! It felt so good to be out and around people (socially distanced) of course. This was definitely a mental boost for both of us.

One of my favorite things to do is relax on our upper deck. Lunch with a view never gets old. I also love our “deck chats”! This is the place where we “solve” (LOL) all the world’s problems, big and small!

No trip would be complete without getting to watch a storm roll in. Yes, I am one of those people that love to watch a storm. It is so soothing to hear the rain falling through the leaves and feel the wind moving and whistling through the trees. It was a perfect ending to our trip.

Never underestimate how much good a change of perspective and perhaps scenery will do for the mind and soul! Already looking forward to our next trip.


I am so excited to reveal this project. My husband gets all the credit as he did all the labor. He believed in my idea and “made it happen”. Our house has an L shaped front entrance with the front door/porch and garage all facing the driveway. We are blessed with a 3 car garage, but with the doors being white, it’s kind of all you see when you look at our house. The front door and porch get lost with all the white doors. This has bothered me for a long time and replacing the doors would be expensive and just not practical.

I did some research and found that many folks were transforming their white garage doors to look like wood by using a gel stain. I spent a few hours on Pinterest and Youtube looking at all the “how to’s” and came up with a plan. Fortunately, my husband thought it was a great idea and willing to give it a try. The good thing about gel stain, is that if it looks awful, you can just paint over it.

We hoped this would be a one weekend project, but with three doors it took two weekends to complete. Also, you must have good weather with no rain. Here is a pic of the project in progress.

I choose a gel stain colored “hickory”. As you can see, with one coat, too much of the white was showing through. We decided that two coats would be necessary but we loved how things were looking.

I had to purchase a few more cans of stain, but Robby finally got two coats completed and we love the transformation. So far everyone in the neighborhood has given us positive feedback. Now, the darker garage doors disappear and you actually see the front entrance. Pics of the front entrance will be coming soon. We plan to use the same gel stain on the front door to give all the doors that wood look color.

Thanks to my husband who will do just about anything I ask!!! Planning on keeping him busy!!!!!