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First, let’s keep it real …. a clean house shouldn’t really smell like anything. So…..don’t try to cover up the “bad” with lots of scented sprays. You have to clean your house!!

  • Moisture is an odor causer. If you live in a humid climate then a dehumidifier will help with musty odors. Also, avoid wall-to-wall carpet if you can, as it holds moisture.
  • Take out the garbage! No one likes this task, but allowing it to pile up in kitchens and bathrooms can cause you to become “nose blind” to it’s odor. So don’t let it get too full and make a regular routine of taking it out.
  • Clean out the fridge. Yes, we all have that little something that was forgotten way in the back. Do a weekly check of what’s in the fridge and throw out items that have gone bad or won’t be eaten.
  • Keep linens washed. Establish a regular routine for washing sheets and towels and always be sure they are completely dry before folding and putting away. Also, immediately clean up any spills on soft surfaces.
  • Open the windows. Depending on the weather, pollen, and where you live, letting in some fresh air is always good.
  • Lastly, add subtle scents to your home. I love candles but sometimes they can be too strong, so choose scents wisely. Also, diffusers that use essential oils may be a better option.


by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

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Well, I have not done a very good job of keeping my blog up-to-date with what I’m reading!! So, I wanted to be sure write a post about this book. As you already can see, I am a fan of Dr. Cloud’s books and this one does not disappoint. The title itself is so intriguing and I knew that I would have some things to learn. It is so easy to blame others, circumstances and even God for the things that go wrong in our lives. I had to take close look at myself and ask the tough question “Am I to blame/what is my part”?

Here are some things I learned:

  • Life isn’t black and white with clear winners and clear losers
  • Most people have areas of success and areas where they are stuck
  • We live in a culture of blame and little personal responsibility
  • When we feel there is nothing we can do, we stay “stuck”
  • The ability to take responsibility (even for things we didn’t create), allows for things to improve.

I love this quote from the introduction, “Taking responsibility in this way does not at all imply that your situation is your fault or that you caused it. It only means that since you find yourself in it, you are willing to put your arms around it and take ownership to make it better”. I don’t know about you, but this was so freeing for me. I had a misconception that responsibility/ownership meant that I had caused the situation and so for many years in many situations, I stayed stuck. However, ownership of where you are and what you can do next is powerful in initiating change in your circumstances.

Here’s the title quote from Chapter 1 “Excuses change nothing, but make everyone feel better. – MASON COOLEY. I really had to chew on this a minute and then I had to admit that it is true. Excuses really do nothing more than make us fell better in the moment. I don’t want to live my life this way …. feeling better with no tangible improvement. I no longer want to fail at taking responsibility for my own life.

Even in areas that I did not choose and cannot control, there are always ways to create, seek and find a range of options to determine your response and what you will do. The options may not be easy or what you want, but you always have options.

This truth struck me hard as well, the world is not just or fair. That is why God asks us to seek and practice the pursuit of justice for ourselves and for those unable to seek it for themselves. We must be the change makers in our own lives and for those who need our help. We must manage our lives in reality (as it really is) not as we think it “should”be.

There is so much to learn in this book that can help you take responsibility for the direction of your life. I would say this is a “must read” book for everyone. I’ll end this post with this parting thought from Drs. Cloud and Townsend: The degree of freedom you experience in the situations that surround you are directly related to the degree that you take responsibility and ownership for it, even if it’s not your fault.

If you are interested in ordering this book click here.

Happy reading everyone!

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Robby and I have recently returned from another weekend trip to our “cabin in the woods”. We traveled over the 4th of July weekend and planned to stick close to the cabin. With Covid19 numbers rising we decided to keep it simply and just get enough groceries for the weekend, grill and simply relax with no agenda. That is exactly what we did!!

We have had some work done on the exterior and fresh trimming of our landscaping. Since it is almost completely natural, that means that we had someone help us “tame” the jungle that will try to take over if you let it. This was the first time we had seen the freshened look and we were so pleased.

It was a good thing that we planned to grill our food because on Saturday afternoon a wonderful storm came through and left us without power. So dinner by candlelight was the evening entertainment. Fortunately, the rain cooled down the temps, so it was very pleasant having the windows and doors open.

Heavy rainfall
Love the wine bottle candle holder
The look of relaxation

The biggest adventure was finding another bag of trash on our extra lot below. Clearly “our bear” had been visiting. I also found tracks at the top of our driveway while walking my pups. Don’t confuse me for a super outdoorsy survival gal, but I have learned to look for and spot animal tracks where we walk and hike. The highlight was checking our field camera and getting a fantastic glimpse of “our bear”. He/she is one of this year’s cubs that we have caught on camera before. The bear seems to like the territory around our cabin so we fondly call him “our bear”.

We hated to leave but work and our real lives beckoned our return. Looking forward to our next trip and perhaps an update on “bear’s” antics!!


Our family had the wonderful opportunity to take a family vacation to Hilton Head, SC. This was quite a feat since we have two adult daughters with lives of their own and two grandchildren, but we all made it happen! We were also able to celebrate our oldest daughters birthday during the trip.

I used VRBO and secured a Beach Villa on South Forest Beach to accommodate all of our family. It was a townhome style and had multiple levels so everyone had plenty of room for privacy and bathrooms too!! With five girls on this trip “bathrooms” were important.

The weather was fabulous and we had a short walk to the beach. Robby set up our chairs/umbrella each morning and all the gals had to do was show up. My granddaughters are 6 and 2 and they absolutely loved the freedom that the beach gave them. They ran back and forth from the chairs to the waters edge too many times to count. They covered themselves with sand, washed it off and did it all over again. The joy on their faces was priceless.

Robby and I loved hearing their laughter and watching them play. Learning new things like flying a kite and art lessons from Aunt Tata were major highlights. Being able to slow down and connect with our daughters and grandchildren was good for our soul. Don’t get me wrong, we were TIRED at the end of each day, but it was time and energy well spent.

Already looking forward to next year’s adventure!


One thing COVID19 has proven, is just how important relationships are in our lives. We were created to be in relationship not isolation. Having a community of friendships is so important to our mental and emotional well being. It is the one thing I missed the most during “stay at home” orders.

Since restrictions have lifted in my state, I was finally able to reunite with two different friend groups over the past week. Boy did it do my soul some good. One group consisted of just ladies in various seasons of life and we just enjoyed catching up and looking forward to the new normal. It was an opportunity to “exhale”.

Another friend group is connected by volunteering. We all volunteer with an organization that helps our community and we also get together once a month for dinner. I was able to host a “potluck” dinner at my home and the food and fellowship were delightful. It was sooooo good to see these friends again and feel like things will be okay.

I hope that all of my friends feel as refreshed as I do. I also plan to value and sow into these relationships with greater purpose in the future. Good and healthy relationships are vital to a good and healthy you!